Raising responsible children is not an accident. It requires loving, purposeful behaviour management that will bring positive results. Today, parents are experiencing problems with disobedient, rebellious children and want guidance on how to properly raise them. There are few principles about how to raise your children.
1. Encourage obedience at an early age: The lessons a child learns in the first seven years of life have more to do with forming character than all that is learned later. If we start later they can still learn but it will be more difficult. Help them understand that obedience involves a choice. It is not merely conformity or compliance, but means that they should think things through and then choose to obey. Ideally obedience should be an expression of love. Begin with practical cores, like doing the laundry or folding the clothes .They might not get it right first but be patient. Sometimes is related to a child's personality. As parents we tend to be rigid and treat all our children alike. Study their individuality because some are very compliant whereas others are stubborn and will strongly resist if you try to compel them. Make obedience to his requirements as easy as possible
2. Make home rules fair: If you are telling anything, explain them why it has to be done that way, and be the same to all your children. Do not have any favouritism as it can be dangerous.
3. Stress self control: The object of discipline is to train children for self government and to exercise self control. All their habits-eating, studying, personal hygiene or even reading materials present opportunities for self government. Children inherit many of their bad habits and lack of control from parents. Therefore we parents must be able to control ourselves.
4. Instill honour and self respect: We should be honest with our children because this helps build their confidence Let your children know that you trust them, even though they are immature. Encourage individual choice and also share in their experiences. Individuality teaches children to make good choices and to stand alone, so they will not give into peer pressure.
5. Avoid fault finding: Children need to be appreciated. Do not create an atmosphere of unsympathetic criticism. Remember flowers do not fold under a blighting wind. Reduce criticisms and increase genuine expressions of love and appreciation.
6. Be role models: Mothers must stand paramount in child training. In our hectic society, mothers have a special role; that of instructor and companion. However a good father is also important. He is to help the children especially the boys -pattern their lies after his example.
7. Prepare them for life: Prepare children to meet the harsh realities of life. We should teach children skills and knowledge that will help to become useful. Instill responsibility which means to "respond with ability or skill'. As you give your children to wash dishes, require them to follow through. Carrying out responsibilities strengthens them physically and mentally. That which trains the hand of the helpfulness and teaches the young to bear their share of life's burdens, is most effective in promoting the growth of mind and character.
8. Stay connected with your kids: Raising responsible children requires positive communication and this begins by communication with God. Mealtime and prayer time is best where the family shares together their experiences.
As we train our children at a very early age, putting these principles into practice, we help them determine a positive and a hopeful future.
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