How do you define anger? When we encounter situations which are unpalatable for us, we tend to lose our patience. Without even knowing, our heart beat shifts gears and beat with a heightened vigor. We can sense the blood rushing to our head, pushing us to a slightly disoriented state. This coercive emotive state imbues our internal composure and leaves us in a belligerent mood. The end result is a verbal tirade or a vexatious gesture which may lead us into trouble. Anger is one of the most negative intonations that denigrate our body, mind and soul. It is one of most common and destructive delusions that afflict people almost everyday. To deal with this malice, we first need to recognize the anger within our mind.
There is a famous Chinese proverb which says that "If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow". Realization is the key to controlling anger. If we can sense the change in our breathing pattern and the way our thoughts are getting clouded, then we can definitely understand and restrain our emotions. That is why the most evolved souls preach that we always need to "Think before we act or speak". The sad part is by the time we realize our mind is in an agitated state, the damage would have already been done. Anger is like the stone thrown into clear still water. The repulses and the repercussions travel far and wide. It is our duty to protect our mind from negativities and always keep it in a pristine and sublime state.
We always think that anger is infused by external entities. But the truth is that it is something which is created by us. The masters of Zen Buddhism (which deals with alternative living methods) always propounds that "No one makes us angry. We make ourselves angry". Anger challenges us to look deeply into ourselves. Most of the time, anger is self-defensive. It arises from unresolved fears or when our ego-buttons are pushed. But when we realize that these things are ephemeral and insubstantial, we will be able to dissipate them from our mind and take control over it. This is a profound life philosophy which was practiced by many great men like Mahatma Gandhi and Nelson Mandela and which enabled them to tread on the path of success.
Controlling anger is the panacea for a peaceful life. For this we need to be more aware of what is happening inside us to enable us to effectively decipher the world around us. By constantly observing our mind and our thought process, we will be able to understand our true emotional self. This will greatly help us in ushering in more positive vibes and ironing out the negative ones. By giving more positive food for thought, our mind will become more resplendent and effervescent. This radiance will help in enlivening the people around us rather than detracting them.
As it is rightly said, "No man can think clearly when his fists are clenched".
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