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What makes a Great Family: Parents (+) Children (-) ExpectationsBY: moonlight | Category: Relationships | Post Date: 2009-08-14
A family is the corner stone of the society and the country. A family can be said as the base for the growth of any civilization and hence for that country. A family consists of members such as a father, mother and their offspring's and that continues in the number of family members as successors. The relationship of parents and the children gives a shape to a family. Both the parties work together for the survival of the family. We can say that the relationship of parents and the children defines a family. The more healthy and strong relationship, the parents and the children would share the happier the family would be seen as. Parents are the initial members of the family so they have a big responsibility to lead the family in a good manner. Children when brought up into the family initially imitate their parents in order to learn to lead the life. Parents are like teachers for the children who teach them how to behave, how to face the situations and how to become a capable person into their lives. Since parents have a big responsibility so they should be really considerate towards their attitude, thinking and their actions into the family. Today we all are becoming knowledgeable in every respect. There are so many parenting tips being conveyed for the parents so that they can give their children a good brought up and a healthy atmosphere. Parents should be very clear with their thoughts and actions while bringing up their children. They must be clear with the version of reality. I feel that there is a misconception into the minds of majority of the parents and that is; they are bringing up their children because one day in the future their children would take care of them. There is an expectation of the return of the care that they are giving to their children right now. In the shade of the care, love and support the parents give to their children, unknowingly they are giving rise to many false expectations. I am not saying that parents should not think that their children should look after them when they get old but it is all about bringing up the children with a right perspective that automatically encourages the children from within their hearts to care and to look after their parents. The upbringing of the child needs to be done with a right knowledge and vision. There are such parents who think their children as their some property or asset that is going to pay off when they need it. They think getting care and respect from their children is their Right. Sometimes they tend to control the lives of their children and try to mold their lives according to their suitability. Sometimes parents pressurize the child to opt for a profession, career or occupation in which they think the financial rewards would be high and hence the child would be able to take care of them efficiently. These all instances arise due to the false expectations from the children. Parents should adopt the right way of thinking that first of all children are no such property. They are living human beings who have their own journey of life and their own destination. Parents should fill the minds of their children with good values and morals so that they become humble and caring not only for them but for everyone. Parents must understand the fact that bringing up a child is their responsibility. It is their responsibility to give their children a virtuous atmosphere rather pressurizing them with their own expectations. If the parents would always input their expectations in the children's minds, the children are going to feel bounded and obliged. Those children being given a free atmosphere surrounded by virtues of humility, tolerance, love, care, patience and courage, would not need to be told about their duties. They would certainly be aware of their duties and responsibilities. Taking care of their parents would not be a burden but a great work for them.Bundle of expectations of parents would make the children irritable sometimes. Parents no doubt take care of the children extremely well but that care should not be mixed up with any expectations. There should be a faith in parent's minds that they are giving their children a right and a virtuous brought up. They should be proud that they are making their children good human beings. So where does the fear of future come from? They should not be fearful about their future that what would happen to them in their old age, who would take care of them? They just give their children a brought up free of false expectations and full of good manners, values and principles. An expectation free relationship between the parents and the children would last more long as compared to the relationship full of fears and pressures. Today I can raise this point of non expectation because I have been given such an atmosphere from my parents where they did not expect anything from us (me, my brother and younger sister). They were just busy in giving us a right brought up. I do not remember a single day when my parents showed any fear to us that who would take care of them or any expectation towards my brother that he must take care of them or he must pay off back all the care, money and all in the future. they never expected anything like this from us that is why I proudly say that we all children respect them with true hearts and always think that whatever best we can do for them would be meager in comparison of their care, love and the brought up they have blessed us with. Parents are the building blocks of the future of their children and hence of the family. Parenting is neither tough nor so easy. But it must be done with right thoughts. Expectations of any kinds have never satisfied anybody. They have always tended to give us sorrow whenever they were not fulfilled. Time and individuals always change so it is better to become confident and not to expect. Article Source: http://www.saching.com About Author / Additional Info: Additional Articles: * Food Addiction: Natural ways to stop and overcome food cravings. * Death - The ultimate reality but a kind suggestion to God!! * The Devil's joke - Do you believe in Ghosts * TERROR STRIKES BACK!! Terrorist attacks in India. * Is Irritation the Appetizer? Does this article violate or infringe on your copyright ? It is a violation of our terms for authors to submit content which they did not write and claim it as their own. 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