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What it means to become a parent: Changes in life after having a baby.

BY: Bharat | Category: Family | Post Date: 2009-10-29
 



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Most couples get overly excited when they are expecting a baby or thinking to have one. There is no doubt that babies are truly a blessing and you will likely love them more than anything in this world because you (as a couple) brought a new life in this world. In fact it is well said that people do not realize the importance of their own parents till they become a parent themself. Nobody in the world can love children more than his/her own parents. Becoming a parent is great but what couples do not realize how drastically their life will change after having a baby. In this article I will tell you some practical aspects that you should be aware of. I am in no way trying to discourage you from having a baby buy want to present a practical picture which many new parents do not realize.

1. MENTAL PREPAREDNESS:
If you are thinking about bringing a new life to this earth, you will have to be mentally prepared for it. Ask yourself again and again "Do I really want a baby", "Am I mentally prepared for it" and "Am I ready to handle Baby Stress". Having a baby today and raising it 25 years back when you yourself were a child is very different. Today, people have busier life, they are more stressed and moreover they are expected to much more than what your parents did for you. It is extremely important to reevaluate your decision, once you have a baby there is no way of undoing it or backing off from your responsibility as a parent. Are you ready for some sleepless nights, baby crying and a lot of patience. Are your personal habits a hurdle for wellness of a baby, for example you cannot smoke cigarettes in the presence of a baby. Never go for a baby because others are pressurizing you. Do not OVER-think but at least think.

2. A STRONG RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN COUPLES:
A strong and trustworthy bond between a couple should act as a foundation for a child to walk into your life. Unfortunately, I have seen many couples trying to have a baby because they feel that their present Not-So-Good relationship will suddenly become better if they have a child. In majority of cases it does not work too well. Do not let a child be your experimental ground to mend personal relationships or a therapy for depression. A healthy relationship between parents is a must for any child and it's impact may start even before the child starts to speak his first word.

3. FINANCIAL RESPONSIBILITY:
This is the MOST IMPORTANT aspect to consider before consider about going for the little one. Cost of diapers, baby food, clothes which keep getting short, baby crib, stroller, car seat etc .. can easily add couple of hundred dollars or more to your monthly budget. Additionally the wife may not be able to go back to work quickly in many cases and that may means loss of one income. Are your jobs safe, do you have enough savings and if you plan to leave your baby in a daycare do you know the cost of it. If the baby falls sick (which they do all the time and make you sick too), you will have to pick your baby immediately from daycare and stay at home with him/her. Your insurance cost, electricity cost and several hidden costs will also increase. In most cases the cost jumps by $200 to $400 per month, but can vary drastically.

4. DO YOU HAVE HELP?
Help from your own parents (baby's grandparents) can be a true blessing. Do you have a close family (like sister, brother) who you can count on in case of an emergency or if you need to leave the child with them for a few hours. Grandparents especially love their grand kids a lot, and they can be of a great help in bringing your little one up.

5. YOUR AGE:
Having a child before the age of 20 and after 35 can be risky for both parents and child. Consult your doctor if you do not fall in this group. In fact having a doctor's consultation before having a baby (regardless of your situation) is one of the smartest things you can do.

6. EVERY CHILD IS DIFFERENT:
Almost every first time parent panics that their child is not learning certain skills as compared to other babies of his/her age. Remember, every baby is different and if your doctor says that your baby is normal, then do not worry. It is perfectly normal for children to learn and do things a few months apart from each other.

7. DO NOT ANNOUNCE YOUR PREGNANCY TOO EARLY:
Chances of a miscarriage are highest during the first three months of getting pregnant. It is OK to tell your closest friends and relatives, but avoid telling everyone. If a miscarriage does occur, you do not want a wave of synthesizers in the middle of all that mess.

8. MOOD SWINGS AND MORNING SICKNESS:
Almost all women go through a lot of hormonal changes in their body, causing them to be a bit cranky. They also have strong (sometimes odd) food cravings. Morning sickness is another thing they have to deal with. It may feel strange but a women's body goes through a lot of changes before delivering a child. Dad's in particular need to be more sensible and cooperating.

9. HEALTHY FOOD:
Make sure you take all the multivitamins recommended by your doctor. Although you will need to increase diet, this should not give you a ticket for unhealthy food. You definitely need to follow the healthy eating habits. Women who eat too much fatty food during their pregnancy, regret later.

10. CHANGES IN YOUR LIFE AND FRIEND CIRCLE:
Your life will change so much that everything you do will be focused around your child. You will see yourself going to parks and play-areas, instead of movies, restaurants and pubs. Try to make friends with other people who have expecting baby too, this will give you a community feeling and your child will have company of other kids as he/she is growing up.

This article can continue for ever, but I guess that I have covered most important points about how our life changes after having a baby and being a responsible parent.

If you think I have left any important points, please leave your comments.

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