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Steps to Build Healthy and Happy RelationshipsBY: maftab92 | Category: Relationships | Post Date: 2009-03-26
Why do we have relationship problems? We usually blame the other person. The other person will try to clarify his or her position, will give justifications and either we will refuse to listen to him or her or we will keep blaming. This blame game will keep going on and on but no one will accept the responsibility. Eventually, in most cases the relationship will break. If we really want to have a healthy relationship with our loved ones, we need to take it seriously and learn to build it. Building a healthy relationship is just like a gardener, who really takes care of his garden with love and passion. When he sees a plant dying, he will take extra care of that plant. Similarly, we need to take extra care of our relationship when we see some trouble. We don't have to do much to take care of our loved ones to enjoy a healthy relationship. We just have to have a commitment with ourselves and practice a few skills consistently. Accept Responsibility Developing a healthy relationship is not a child's play. We have to assume our responsibility to maintain a healthy relationship. Remember! We learn from each other. When we show a sense of responsibility, the other person will learn it subconsciously and will become responsible too. On the other hand, if we keep telling him/her to be responsible, it might not work because we all keep high expectations from others. We might verbalize our expectations or not but we do keep. So, the best policy is that you become responsible without keeping expectations from the other person and give him/her to become responsible too. Build Trust Building trust is the most important part of a healthy relationship. You can call it the foundation of a healthy and happy relationship. It becomes difficult to rebuild trust once broken. We usually make promises with others and sometimes we forget to fulfill our promises. To build trust, fulfil your commitments and promises with your spouse, children, employees and friends. This will again show your sense of responsibility and the person will learn to trust you. Consideration Sometimes, we try to impose our decisions on others, which, causes problems in any relationship. Instead of being controlling, dominating and imposing your decisions on others, involve everyone in decision making process. For example, at home you involve your spouse and children. Take their opinion and if possible respect their decision or decide mutually. Communication skills Improve your communication skills. Learn to establish rapport, which means make the other person feel comfortable in your company. Use a sense of humour in a realistic and natural way. Humour is therapeutic and it heals emotional wounds. Try to be enthusiastic: take interest in what others are doing or saying, enjoy with them and let them enjoy too. Attentive listening Become a good listener, pay attention to the other persons and listen to him carefully. When somebody is talking to you and your attention is somewhere else, it might hurt the other person. He or she might feel neglected, rejected, ignored, annoyed and worthless. As a result he or she can develop resentments, which is an unhealthy sign for a happy relationship. So, pay attention and show empathy as a result you will make him or her feel comfortable, important, pleased, satisfied, worthwhile, and cared for, appreciated, encouraged and inspired. This is the food for a healthy and happy relationship. Stop blaming If someone makes a mistake, instead of blaming him or her give positive feedback to make the person realize that you accept him or her as a human being. Show empathy and convey your message that next time -be careful-. At the same time you will have to show patience. Remember! Old habits die hard. So, learn to forgive. Accept your mistakes Remember! We are human beings and we can also make mistakes and the real greatness is to accept our mistakes. Others will learn by this act of ours. Avoid keeping resentments Whatever efforts you are making will help you in the long run. So, do it large heartedly. Instead of thinking why should I do all that? Or instead of keeping resentments imagine the benefits as you are moving towards developing a healthy and happy relationship. Learn to give unconditional positive regard to others. Remember! I mentioned earlier, whatever you do, others will learn from you. So, you are the one who is going to benefit. Article Source: http://www.saching.com About Author / Additional Info: Building Healthy and Happy Relationships. Additional Articles: * Communism in America * UK's, USA's and India – What sets them apart? * Asian buses: Are they deathtraps? (Bus accidents in Asia) * Tourism in India * Influence Of God - God Fearing People And Atheists Does this article violate or infringe on your copyright ? 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