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Boys and Girls living together before marriage: Live-in relationshipBY: Bharat | Category: Relationships | Post Date: 2009-08-14
These days there is a growing trend among youngsters in India to live together before getting married. These boys and girls almost never let their parents know about this live-in relationship and basically live a secretive life. However, their closest friends might know about their relationship but not everyone. FIRST REACTION: Frankly, for any Indian the first reaction regarding Live-in relationships is obviously very negative. I myself failed to accept that in a country like India where people are known for their culture and conservativeness, how can people even think about opposite sexes sharing an apartment and almost live like married couples. This trend is quite acceptable in western countries where people live a highly independent life, and no one cares about society. Then why has this trend penetrated into our Indian culture. IS IT ALL ABOUT FLIRTING ? I stepped back from my point negative of view and tried to enter in the minds of these boys and girls who are living together before marriage. I started thinking - "Is it just about flirting?", "Are they simply trying to copy western people?", I think "YES" to a certain degree but it's not only that. I explain my thoughts a little further below. WOMEN EXPECT MORE THESE DAYS: Unlike a generation back, when Men were considered the 'Supreme being', 'The head of home' and Women was expected to stay at home, had no 'Say' in most matters outside home. Those women always had to compromise based on his husband's wish ... Well those times are going away. We have been observing a high rate of divorce in the Indian society as well because girls are not the 'Slaves of the Home' anymore, they have their own priorities, a greater wish to make decisions, self-respect, demand the same level of respect and power as the male member of the family. When ego's clash and couples fail to compromise then it results in terrible fights and even divorce. Now this is not a girl's fault, everyone needs to accept that in the 'Playing Field of Life' has become more even even in India. WHY DO COUPLES LIVE TOGETHER BEFORE GETTING MARRIED: As I mentioned earlier, many boys and girls live together for the purpose of 'Flirting' or just to have a good time. But I think a majority of them live together before marriage because they want to be 100% sure that they are fully compatible. These couples know there is a lot of difference between dating for a few hours and actually living together. During dating both boy and girl try to remain in their best behaviour, you actually get to know a person closely only when you live together. So, basically these couples share a short live-in relationship, when they live together before marriage. They try to understand each other better before publically tying the marriage knot. In other words, these couples 'try' each other in real lives instead of getting into an incompatibility mess later. BUT IS IT REALLY OK TO HAVE THIS KIND OF LIVE-IN RELATIONSHIP ? In some cases it's ok. Let's accept, our Indian society is biased, we tend to forgive boys easier than girls. When a girl is not too much compromising types, it is important that she finds the right guy who understands her, does not try to suppress her and is ready to give her the desired freedom in life. She feels that taking a risk of live-in relationship is better than marrying and later going through divorce if things do not work out. Boys are usually very much ok for living together before marriage because they have a lesser social risk anyway. However, in many other cases these boys and girls become highly selective in life to a point it starts to damage them. Some individuals keep breaking up and try luck with newer partners over and over again. What started as a sensible decision in their mind, now becomes a hobby and further enhances flirting attitude. Their expectation from a life partner rises even higher from where they initially started. CONCLUSION: Overall I think live-in relationships is a bad idea, especially in India. If we transform ourself into copying western lifestyle, we will lose traditional way of life. Have you ever closely looked at the life of people living in western countries? They have very high divorce rates and many individuals never marry because they fail to find Mr. Right or Ms. Right in their entire youth life. The actual life of a westerner is very stressful. When couples tie knot by selecting a midway path ( parents introduce couples, they talk/meet a few times before agreeing to marry) is the best. Both husband and wife do not each other extremely well and are mentally ready to compromise quite a bit. Again this is my personal opinion about living together before marriage, after looking life from both ends. Comments are welcome. Article Source: http://www.saching.com About Author / Additional Info: Additional Articles: * Safest strategy for long term investment * The role of Twitter in Expanding and Improving Businesses: * Jealousy in Relationship * The Easy Way to Find the Right Insurance for Your Caravan * The different types of Karaoke machines Does this article violate or infringe on your copyright ? It is a violation of our terms for authors to submit content which they did not write and claim it as their own. If this article infringes on your copyrights, then use our Contact us form with the detailed proof of infringement along with the offending article's title, URL and writer name. If you do not hear back from us then contact us again in another 10 days. Thank you. Comments on this article: (1 comments so far) * Additional comments are now closed for this article *
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